How my day went so wrong and it was just 10am

<blows dust away> <coughs twice>

    I know what you’re thinking lol, if I wasn’t arrested I won’t write anything here(and it’s really not like that o). Oh well I’ll try to post something else after this. Hope you have popcorn and yea there’s some pidgin in it and maybe some Yoruba to make my point lol enjoy. 

  So errm I was on my way to work, oh yeaaa  I work now, nothing much, just to pass time till school resumes. I was already running late and my "boss" has quite the temper so she kept  calling my phone nonstop but i was in traffic there was nothing I could possibly do about the situation. 

I was in a bus going from oyingbo to bariga  and it was moving really slow, when we finally got to adekunle the driver was trying to maneuver his way across before the traffic light turned red, I could have sworn I saw green too. That’s how policemen entered the bus with us(lol no that’s not how I was arrested relazzz)  saying he tried to pass when it was on red. this man begged like no tomorrow, we the passengers too joined in begging thinking they’ll leave him, they didn’t let him go o, one officer was in the bus beside me and the other in the driver’s seat trying to move the car. I texted my boss immediately that I’ll be later than I planned, she vex.😭😭 I was like let us even get down and look for another bus since we’ve begged they didn’t answer. I got down looking for another bus, my boss was calling me like I stole money, she said where was I, I didn’t know it was adekunle I was at that time so I said I had no idea. She didn’t believe me lol 

So I was taking a video of the environment to send to her so she’d come pick me up or something. Mind you the driver was already displaying and attracting attention to himself the typical "how will I feed my family now" so they let him go but they already broke his gear or something, so the bus couldn’t move. Back to me, in the process of making the video a police officer came from behind me and snatched my phone and put in her pocket. 

I thought it was play oo, I said sorry ma my phone, she said why are you videoing? I explained, she didn’t answer, I’m like ah so I borrowed someone’s phone to at least call my family members. Abi? So I explained to my aunty, she told me to hold on that they’ll give me back so  I went to further beg the woman thinking she’d answer, they  were like four there so they said let’s go and meet oga. I said where? They said panti(a police station at alagomeji) I’m like no nah ah how did this happen? My diar they carried me inside motor o like a thief, I was now trying to like cut my losses and jump out of the vehicle, as per I go buy another phone abeg. But them don hook me for one corner, so i stayed, we got to panti she was walking in front of me, another chance to run, almost took it lol but yea we got to the oga’s office, I greeted her almost knelt down gan sef😭. 

The other officer explained to her, she looked very calm I just thought she was going to say delete and go. That’s how story started o, you people hate the police, we’re like water you’ll always need us. You’re too young for all these. all of you are against us we’re bigger than you, I can buy any car I want. Omoo all okoto but I was just nodding and saying yes ma until she got to the part where she said I’ll write statement and they’ll take me to court. In my head I’m like need I remind you that taking a video isn’t a crime? 

But them no wan hear "I know my right oo" 

I saw that she was dragging the matter too much 

And I witnessed the driver’s display. 

So that’s how I displayed some crocodile tears 

Omo AMVCA worthy😂😂 I deserve it. 

So she said don’t cry don’t cry I have a daughter too, the emotional card always work, especially women. So she asked me delete it and go. 

That’s how one man from nowhere came and created another scene, matter than doesn’t concern you. He told me to call my mom, he narrated stories and lied yes he lied. My mom said ehnehn is it a crime? 😂 that how they vex finish oo.  Let’s go to DPO the mother will come here today, the woman selling corn outside too was putting mouth, I wanted to deck her fr. 

So they took me to DPO’s office, on our way there, they were insulting me and shouting at me, I swear if you didn’t know what was happening you’d think I stole. One woman was really extra about it and was insulting my family and generation calling me names. I was looking down before o as per say I dey disguise. I looked up to see her face very well, I swear I wanted to quickly lhil frosh her 😂 make them kuku lock me up.   Since they were already treating me like a criminal 

but I just remembered that "God doesn’t sleep". 

We reach DPO side o, he asked for my name and where I school, asked for the video I showed him, (I had 26 missed calls 

Sheesh I don’t know how to handle this fame😂)He said delete it and go. So I left, it was as simple as that and y’all dropped insults, threats and curses on me? Nah we’ll go to that court o. 

He said to the police officers and I quote 

"Do your job well and then you"ll have nothing to be scared of let the young lady go sorry for the trouble dear." 

1.They were going to extort the cab driver

2.According to my magistrate aunt they had no right to collect my phone for what I did wasn’t a crime.

 3. The police officers that took my phone and Harassed me have been invited to court.

4.Thank God say man No be God. 

5.There are still good ones out there,may we not just jam the bad ones. 

   This country is lawless and our so called protectors are always looking for something to hang our neck. How pathetic! And yea People suck. don’t expect nice, you’ll be disappointed.  

I’ll do a story on that later lol 

But yeaa That’s a not so short story of how I spent  an hour in panti. 🦋

Do I really don’t want to get married?

These days it feels like a whole generation worked hard to empower women but forgot to teach men to live with empowered women.

"My female child must go to school too"

"She should be a lawyer or an accountant"  

Did you teach your male child it’s okay for women to have demanding careers too? I don’t want this to sound like a fight for equality so 

Short story;

When I was younger,let’s say ten, I’ve always blurted out "I don’t want to get married". 

No one really asked why because you know "she’s a child she doesn’t know what she’s saying" lol, well here it goes.

I saw bad marriages and it was really scary as a kid.

I had this neighbor that worked like she was born to work, (24/7) looked so stressed out everyday but she worked nonetheless.

By "work" I mean clean,cook,take care of her kids,actually Never free, I know this because anytime I take my assignment to her she’d ask me to come back that she’s busy. she had two little boys and I think we all know how stressful that can be giving that she had a job too.

Point is I knew this woman before she got married, I attended their wedding(distant family thingy). 

It was a total CHANGE of Character 

I was scared! Like "ah if this is how it is I don’t want"

She looked pale, I’m not even exaggerating, it was that bad (she was pregnant too). Then I thought can’t her husband help out or something? Fast forward to 2017 guess what? They split up! after he made her quit her job and sit at home with the kids, they started to struggle with house rent and all other expenses. Her husband got sacked around that time too and boom he started to pick fights with her at every chance he got, hits her too.

It’ll be safe to say they fell out of love too because I didn’t see anyone of them fighting for their relationship to actually work, or maybe they had a really weird way of fighting for it.

I had that image of marriage in my head for a while, till I was exposed to more complicated relationships issues,my point of view changed as I grew much older. 

Another short story; 

There’s this person I stayed with growing up (not disclosing the identity for personal reasons). I just realized I’d have to use he or she lol 

Anyways,She told me stories of how she didn’t even date her husband that he just told her to come see his parents and then just picked wedding date, me that was just 14 I was like ahhh just like that? she didn’t even get to choose, she told me one time that she wish she could have married who she actually wanted and I’m like whaaat? and you’re just saying this now? after sixteen years of marriage? a little too late ma.They’re still trying to cope with each other tho(afi bi unilag roommates) as per "we have kids together let’s do this for them" lol can’t be me. 

Back to my topic, my answer is NO. Marriage can be good, after all God said “Go forth, and multiply,” plan to do that. 

No doubts there are bad marriages but there are good marriages too and I’m going to have one. 

It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages. 

Marry your Best friend. I’m not saying you won’t fight but at least you’d always know how to fix it. 

Mental Health

                    Mental Health 

I thought I’d never have to face this topic after going through major breakdown myself. 

It’s sad how we barely even talk to each other(friends even family)anymore

Everybody is "fine",lol have you ever wondered how "fine" Is always the right response to how are you? 

social media isn’t even helping,it has a great influence on our minds. You didn’t know? 

Of course, that’s not on google I suppose, every one is glued to their phones 24/7(i’m not shading I’m a victim too)  

When last did you have a conversation like actual communication with your friends? Show them you actually care? 1920 I guess.

 Every year 25 million people suffer from depression and 30% commit suicide.

honestly Mental health is Underrated. 

A little truth? I wrote this in like January lol 

But it didn’t really feel real compared to me tweaking it now. 

So I’m not exaggerating when I say that I know how it feels, really crappy, Sad, unnecessary tears.Yea you’re most likely depressed. 

 I mean I just replied someone with a laughing emoji and I had tears in my eyes lol 

Seeeeeee I said "lol" too wasn’t even funny, point is we don’t text what we really feel most times. 

I’d make a long speech about how "suicide is never the answer" but I think we’ve heard enough to last us for a life time. 

P.s you should see a therapist. 

Does 18 really mean Adulthood?

    Does 18 really mean Adulthood? 

 I’d start with the popular saying "age is just a number" but that’s a bit cliche don’t you think? 

Sometimes age isn’t just a number. No matter how much a child acts like an adult, a child is still a child.  

I  turned 18 and guess what? I didn’t even grow wings! Can you imagine?. As kids We all thought it would be like releasing a bird into the sky once we turn 18. Another thing you won’t really understand till you actually get there, it’s just a landmark you get to with more responsibilities and a clearer view of what life really is about.  

I don’t want it to sound scary for those that aren’t 18 yet, Don’t worry it’s very fun. like our parents say "you’ll understand when you’re 18".

In Africa it’s much different at 18, you don’t get a car or sex education or an apartment of your own 

Instead you get more of "you’re irresponsible" more of  "you think you’re now big abi" and "you better go and look for work" 

It’s no different from when you are 16 or 17 

You’ll grow,no doubt but it’s still same old tricks  

Not really free(although parents differ).

I really didn’t understand what it meant to be an adult and I still don’t think I do but we’ve got forever to figure that out right? Baby steps? 

Here’s the Fun part, you’re only going to be a teenager for 7 years. 

Live life,make friends,break some rules too 

you won’t get a second chance at that.

I’ve always wished I could be a kid again,the always happy and so much energetic version of me,zero worries. Eat and sleep.

I hope to write something about my youthful days someday but till then I’m going to enjoy being a teenager as long as I can. Back to my topic;

Being above 18 means you get legal rights and responsibilities of an adult. Being an adult means you’re fully grown. so tell me,are you just above 18 or are you an adult?💀 use the comment section.

Introduction

Am I supposed to like write my name and everything i stand for here? Like an actual  introduction? I’m still trying to figure this out soo yea 

My Name is Lailah Ifeoluwa 

I’m from Lagos state,typical Yoruba 

You’d find my likes and hobbies on my profile (please visit). And also find out more about me as time goes by. 

I’ve always wanted to have a blog of my own and share my thoughts with people 

Guess I finally got that off my to-do list.  

I’ve always found writing really fun 

And now that I’m at home and doing nothing in particular why not? 

Could have done this a lot earlier but better late than never right?....

I don’t know if there’s a comment section but yea please drop a comment.

I honestly do not know how these things work!  

I’ll figure it out tho. 

Thanks for giving me a chance.