These days it feels like a whole generation worked hard to empower women but forgot to teach men to live with empowered women.
"My female child must go to school too"
"She should be a lawyer or an accountant"
Did you teach your male child it’s okay for women to have demanding careers too? I don’t want this to sound like a fight for equality so
Short story;
When I was younger,let’s say ten, I’ve always blurted out "I don’t want to get married".
No one really asked why because you know "she’s a child she doesn’t know what she’s saying" lol, well here it goes.
I saw bad marriages and it was really scary as a kid.
I had this neighbor that worked like she was born to work, (24/7) looked so stressed out everyday but she worked nonetheless.
By "work" I mean clean,cook,take care of her kids,actually Never free, I know this because anytime I take my assignment to her she’d ask me to come back that she’s busy. she had two little boys and I think we all know how stressful that can be giving that she had a job too.
Point is I knew this woman before she got married, I attended their wedding(distant family thingy).
It was a total CHANGE of Character
I was scared! Like "ah if this is how it is I don’t want"
She looked pale, I’m not even exaggerating, it was that bad (she was pregnant too). Then I thought can’t her husband help out or something? Fast forward to 2017 guess what? They split up! after he made her quit her job and sit at home with the kids, they started to struggle with house rent and all other expenses. Her husband got sacked around that time too and boom he started to pick fights with her at every chance he got, hits her too.
It’ll be safe to say they fell out of love too because I didn’t see anyone of them fighting for their relationship to actually work, or maybe they had a really weird way of fighting for it.
I had that image of marriage in my head for a while, till I was exposed to more complicated relationships issues,my point of view changed as I grew much older.
Another short story;
There’s this person I stayed with growing up (not disclosing the identity for personal reasons). I just realized I’d have to use he or she lol
Anyways,She told me stories of how she didn’t even date her husband that he just told her to come see his parents and then just picked wedding date, me that was just 14 I was like ahhh just like that? she didn’t even get to choose, she told me one time that she wish she could have married who she actually wanted and I’m like whaaat? and you’re just saying this now? after sixteen years of marriage? a little too late ma.They’re still trying to cope with each other tho(afi bi unilag roommates) as per "we have kids together let’s do this for them" lol can’t be me.
Back to my topic, my answer is NO. Marriage can be good, after all God said “Go forth, and multiply,” plan to do that.
No doubts there are bad marriages but there are good marriages too and I’m going to have one.
It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages.
Marry your Best friend. I’m not saying you won’t fight but at least you’d always know how to fix it.
